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                                                A letter to ‘Dear Zindagi'

The movie ‘Dear Zindagi’ speaks about a pertinent problem facing youth in the metropolitan towns- ‘how to balance the emotional and professional needs of my life.’ Kyra is a spit fire to the conventional Indian sensibilities. If you were to look at the age map that was established for us by our ancestors, you would realise that everything needed to be done on a certain point of time in life.

So you are 20 something, it was time to look for work(decent) for Kyra’s work hasn’t been considered decent to any understood standards of norms. She continues to try and explain her work with rebellion or aggression throughout the movie. So her budding career in cinematography is confused with photography- and this beats the hell out of her.

The generation we are a part of has been there and done that, and today we are all grappling somewhere in the middle- we are not ‘that young’ anymore and yet we are a part of the demonetizing generation. And we are now learning to take care of our ailing parents and learning to be individuals and parents and a lot more things. Being ‘modern’ and ‘digitized’ was not the only challenge facing our 40 some generation.

The movie teaches us about making adjustments, something the evolving generation has not learnt. If the relationship doesn’t agree with you, leave it and move on- is the mantra. But what do you do with parents? Do you just leave them because you don’t get along with them? And why has it become so difficult to get along? These questions go to another level when girls are faced with a pressing question of getting along with in-laws. 

“That is completely unnecessary. Why isn’t there a rule for in-laws to stay separately and why do women have such a problem to get houses on rent if they are single?” this was the conversation Kyra has with her chuddy-buddy who is also a part of her ‘inner circle’.

But this inner circle works only if they are willing to accept you just the way you are. While Kyra discovers how to talk to herself out of her miseries, she also discovers through her sessions with Dr. Jehangir Khan that there are no perfect relationships and expecting every need to me met through one relationship was putting too much pressure on that one person. 

“So have a coffee wala buddy- doesn’t have to be your lover, have a shopping buddy and so on…. that makes life rich and you develop acceptance for flaws.”

I am sure most of us have given up on many relations because they are not worth it, but seeing this movie I  realized that if we learn to be ourselves without disrespecting the other persons individuality, we will learn to adapt to different kinds of people and develop richer relationships.

A must watch to see reality first hand!!!